How to educate children to lie?

Honesty is the foundation of a person's life and a manifestation of his personality. An honest person will be trusted and respected by others when doing things, so the spirit of honesty should be cultivated from an early age. However, many parents have found that their children also love to lie and are always dishonest in what they say. This can be very harmful to their children when they grow up, so it should be corrected in a timely manner. So when faced with children who love to lie, how should parents educate them correctly?

The best solutions for children of different ages to lie

1-3 years old: Do not scold harshly

A child's first lie often occurs at this stage, mainly denying that he or she did something or lying in order to get something.

Response: Parents should not scold or force their children to admit that they lied, but should guide them with kindness.

3-5 years old: follow the child’s thinking

At this time, children often take imaginary things as reality, and these fabricated lies are more like simple performances or their own wishful thinking. He might talk about his acquaintance with a TV star or a strange encounter with some cartoon character.

How to deal with it: If your child says something that you think is irrelevant, don’t directly disrupt his imagination. You can even follow his thinking and create a beautiful scene with him.

5-12 years old: Finding the cause is the key

At this stage, children sometimes lie because they consider other people's feelings or don't want to hurt others, which means that children have initial social awareness. Children may also lie because they do not have the ability to achieve certain goals and do not want to disappoint their parents or be punished.

Response: If your child tells a lie, don't punish him by taking him away from TV or locking him up in the house. You should find out the reasons why your child lies and help him face and overcome the difficulties.

12-18 years old: Master the scale

As children grow up, they are no longer willing to share details of their lives with their parents. If you dig deep, they will make up some lies to cover up the truth. This is a sign of growth.

Response: Parents should give children space and freedom, but they should know the limits. If children often lie about homework, parents should express their dissatisfaction. Some children will lie due to pressure. While parents help them resolve the problem, they should also tell them the reasons why they cannot lie. Honesty is very important for a person.