What should I do if my child always loses his temper?

Many parents are troubled by their children's constant temper tantrums, and they don't know how to solve the problem. When facing this situation, parents should pay attention to giving their children more understanding and respect. In daily life, they can try to communicate more with their children and understand their inner thoughts.

1. Understand and respect children.

When children reach the age of two or three, they like to say "no" to their parents. This is the first step in building self-esteem and self-esteem. They become aware of their own existence, demand equal status with adults, and show increasing selectivity towards adults' commands and arrangements. At this time, parents should not easily interfere with their actions and should not hurt their children's self-esteem. If the child must obey your wishes, do not use a commanding tone to say "do this" or "don't do that". Instead, seek the child's opinion in an equal manner and give the child room for choice. For example, "Wait until you finish watching this cartoon before taking a bath, okay?" "Do you want to play with building blocks first, or read a book first?" This not only protects the child's self-esteem, but also makes the child willing to listen to you and will not easily say the opposite to you.

2. The requirements put forward should be reasonable and in line with the actual situation of the child.

For example, there are some things that children must do and are completely doable, such as when to eat and when to sleep. Parents should not give children room for choice and must strictly enforce it. There are some things that children can do or not, and if they don’t want to do them, then just don’t ask them to do them. When children are playing enthusiastically, parents must respect them, seek their opinions, give them time to think, or let them finish playing, or promise them to finish their work before playing, so that they can gradually accept it. Parents must not use force to suppress their children, causing them to cry and make a fuss, and then give in and obey, otherwise the children will develop the habit of disobeying adult requests. As for when to make demands and discipline children, it should be based on the principle of "not endangering life, health and morality". When you instinctively want to reject your child's request or are ready to subdue his or her rebellious behavior, I advise you to hold back on saying "no" and think about whether the child's request and behavior endangers his or her life, health, and morality. If not, just let him or her go. This may cause some trouble for adults, but think about how your patience will be rewarded with the healthy development of your child's personality. How worth it!

3. Trust your children and satisfy their curiosity and reasonable demands.

Parents' overprotection is often the reason why children speak in a contradictory way. Driven by curiosity and a strong desire for autonomy, children want to try everything and do everything. Excessive care and substitution will cause children to lose many opportunities to learn and explore; while simply scolding and stopping them will lead to confrontation. Parents should believe in their children's abilities and satisfy their curiosity. For example, if he wants to play in the rain, you can put on a raincoat and rubber boots for him to play; if he wants to put on his shoes by himself, let him do it, and help him when his shoes don't fit his feet properly; if he wants to do laundry, give him a piece of soap and let him wash his own handkerchief and socks; if he wants to sweep the floor, let him sweep, even if it gets dirtier the more he sweeps... Of course, parents' help is indispensable, such as helping him straighten his sleeves, tie his shoelaces, and pick up the garbage. Fully trust your children, let them accumulate experience and experience the joy of success while meeting reasonable demands and practicing personally, so that children will not easily develop the habit of speaking the opposite of their parents. .