How to raise children in poverty, raise boys' ambitions and girls' temperament

We must cultivate children's correct mindset and help them accept social reality. We should not blindly compare ourselves with others regarding their material wealth. The key is to use our own knowledge and abilities to create this wealth.

Japan's hard-working education: earning money through labor after school

There is a famous saying in Japanese education for children: except sunlight and air which are gifts from nature, everything else must be obtained through labor. Many Japanese students go out to work and earn money in their spare time. It is very common for college students to work and study, and even children from wealthy families are no exception.

They earn their tuition by working as waiters and wash dishes in restaurants, selling goods in stores, taking care of the elderly in nursing homes, and working as tutors. When children are very young, their parents instill in them the idea of ​​"don't cause trouble to others". When the whole family goes out for a trip, no matter how young the children are, they must carry a small backpack without exception. When others asked why, the parents said, "They should carry their own things."

Wang Yung-ching, a wealthy man from Taiwan, China, started educating his children to be frugal.

He calculated his children's tuition and living expenses very accurately, just like managing his businesses, always giving them "just enough" and not allowing them any chance to enjoy luxury. In addition, I always communicate with my children by writing letters and never by phone because I think long-distance calls are too expensive.

Wang Yongqing's daughter Wang Xuehong said: Her father particularly emphasized that one must "get to the bottom of things". Most of the letters he wrote were about his work experience. He told her what happened in the company, how he got to the bottom of things, how he handled things, etc., allowing her to learn a lot of ways to deal with things. Nowadays, many families have only one child. In addition, women are increasingly participating in social activities and need to shoulder social obligations and responsibilities like men. Therefore, both men and women should be raised in poverty.

To raise children in poverty, you must first teach them to do two things:

Boys cultivate ambition, girls cultivate temperament

For boys, the emphasis is on cultivating "ambition", mainly to cultivate the qualities of overcoming difficulties, hard work, diligence, hard work, resilience and tenacity, such as taking him to climb mountains, play football, and swim to exercise resilience.

For girls, the focus is on cultivating "temperament", which emphasizes the investment in cultural accomplishment and the cultivation of temperament. If conditions permit, girls can learn music, chess, calligraphy and painting. At home, give them more care so that they feel spiritually rich, secure and proud. Also, intentionally create an environment for children to learn to care for others, help others, and become more feminine.

Parents should be "lazy" appropriately

Many parents always complain that their children have poor self-care abilities. In fact, many times it is because the parents are too "diligent". When the child reaches the age where he or she learns to eat by himself or herself, the parents cannot bear to see the mess on the table and finally cannot help but feed him or her; the child spends a long time picking up a toy and seeing the mess on the floor, the parents cannot help but tidy it up.

"Raising children in poverty" is first reflected in letting children do their own things. Even with such a simple sentence, quite a number of parents find it difficult to stick to it. Therefore, parents should be "lazy" appropriately in the process of raising their children. They must learn to tolerate their children's imperfections and wait for their children to do things better.

In addition, today's only children are generally more selfish and domineering, and parents have to learn to be reserved with their children in the details of life.

If the child wants a "ten points", the parents should just give "six or seven points", no more than "eight points". If necessary, explain the conditions to the child. For example, when taking your children to the supermarket to buy food, don't buy them everything they want. And don't eat all the food at once when you get home. Instead, teach your children to exercise restraint, be frugal, and consume in moderation.