How to educate a willful child?

Generally speaking, most children are willful because they are spoiled by their parents. For example, when educating their children, some parents often give them whatever they need and never scold them regardless of whether they are right or wrong. Especially when the children are crying, they will compromise with them. Some families, especially grandparents, particularly dote on their children. As a result, it is easy for children to become willful and develop some bad habits.

Children’s willful behavior manifests itself in different ways, so the solutions must be targeted.

1. Reasoning

Parents should explain the truth to their children calmly, hold their hands and look into their eyes while speaking, so that the children can listen attentively and feel their parents' love. If a child makes a mistake due to willfulness, you can use words like "I'm so ashamed" or "I'm embarrassed" when talking to him/her, so that he/she will develop a sense of shame, which can effectively help the child correct his/her behavior.

2. Transfer Method

When a child is being willful, parents can try to direct the child's attention to things that interest him based on the characteristics of the situation at the time.

3. The Law of Submission

When a child cries, sleeps on the ground, or throws things, parents should ignore him and let him express himself freely under the condition that his safety is guaranteed. When he sees that this "weapon" doesn't work, he will naturally stop, and then you can start reasoning and educating him.

4. Provocation

Generally, willful children have strong competitive spirit and self-esteem. They like to hear praise and are happy when they are praised for their abilities. If parents grasp and make use of this psychological characteristic of their children, the willful behavior that cannot be controlled at ordinary times may be restrained in the psychological state of "I can do it" and "I want to do it".

5. Prevention

Children's willful outbursts usually follow certain patterns, and parents should observe carefully to understand their children's temperament. Before a situation arises that may provoke your child's willful behavior, make some "rules and regulations" for him in advance.

6. Suggestion

Repeat to your child the images, plots and behaviors of certain typical characters in familiar TV, movies or stories, so that he can be hinted, inspired and educated, and thus be able to restrain his willful behavior.

VII. Entrustment Law

Children like to help adults to show that they are capable. Therefore, when the child is being willful, parents can consciously let him do things that he likes and is within his ability. This can not only free the child from the situation where he may become willful, but also make him feel satisfied because he is trusted.