How to educate children as a single mother

Education has always been a key issue in our country. As a country that attaches great importance to education, our country has always placed education in an important position. For children who have not yet gone to school, family education is the first lesson in life, so family education is crucial. For some incomplete single-parent families, more attention should be paid to the education of children, because the broken family often brings extreme harm to children, causing them to have some psychological problems.

1. Don’t indulge or spoil your children without principles.

Because after being widowed or divorced, parents tend to be more compassionate to their children, like to obey their children in everything, let their children decide everything, and would rather suffer themselves than let their children suffer even the slightest bit of "grievance".

2. Parents should cultivate their children's sense of independence

There are many single parents who depend on their children for everything and regard their children as their only hope in life. They are always afraid that their children are unsafe or have accidents.

3. Simple and rough behavior is not desirable

Contrary to some special care and excessive protection, some parents use simple and rough methods to educate their children, beating and scolding them at every turn, causing the children to live in an atmosphere of fear and anxiety all day long. The development of their personality is severely suppressed, and they will develop bad qualities such as timidity, loneliness, and lack of self-confidence.

4. Children are not the only spiritual support

After losing their spouse, many parents regard their children as their only spiritual support. They often place all their hopes and dreams on their children and require their children to excel in everything, especially in their studies.

5. Do not allow children to participate in some social activities

Children of single parents are often subject to various discrimination and prejudice from society, so they are prone to become depressed, inferior, or even withdrawn.

6. Pay attention to some gender role education

In the process of children's psychological growth, learning of gender roles is a very important link. When a boy has no father or a girl has no mother, they lack the most direct role model to imitate when learning gender roles.

The impact on the mental health of children from single-parent families:

1. Good material living environment. Studies have shown that the material environment has a great impact on children.

2. Let your children participate in the circle of relatives and friends frequently to experience the group. A single-parent family is indeed missing one of the parents. The child could have used the father to buffer the mother's authority in the family relationship, but the father is not around, making the child isolated and helpless, which can easily lead to a deep sense of insecurity. Allowing children to experience the group environment among relatives and friends frequently can appropriately make up for this deficiency. Pros and cons of single-parent families for children

3. Taboo in single-parent families: parents belittling each other in front of their children. This needs some explanation. The child is usually awarded to the mother. If the mother often belittles the father in front of the child, or speaks ill of the father to relatives and friends, over time, the child's mental state will become extreme and stubborn, and he will develop a fear of both sexes and marriage, and even develop a repressive personality.

4. Parents who take care of children must be happy, have their own things to do, and maintain inner communication with their children. Parents who keep an eye on their children all day long because they are worried that they will not be able to raise the children by themselves will put great psychological pressure on their children. The children will either continue to remain silent or explode completely when puberty arrives. I often see a type of young people whose puberty is delayed and who go against their parents' wishes in various ways. If you look into the growth experiences of these people, you will find that they grew up under the watchful eyes and restraint of their parents during their childhood. So they finally start working, get married and have children. At this time, children often do not make choices they want to make, but make choices that their parents do not want, in order to break free from their parents' constraints and strive for independence.

5. Encourage children to establish their own circle of friends so that they can integrate well into the social group and find their own place in it.