What to do if your child has a competitive mentality

We can all understand that people have a certain degree of comparison mentality. Deep down in our hearts, everyone can't help but envy others and hopes that they can be the best. This is especially evident in children. Children have a stronger competitive mentality because they are not mentally mature and always like praise from adults. Therefore, this requires parents to give their children correct guidance to prevent them from going astray.

How does children develop a competitive mentality?

1. Spoiling

Every parent hopes that their children can grow up strong and smart. I always respond to children's requests and give them whatever they want. I will also buy them things that other children have. Excessive pampering and coddling by parents will make children develop a competitive mentality and become dependent.

2. Children’s innocence provides a psychological basis for comparison

Children are simple, innocent, curious and like to imitate. Children are still young and do not have the ability to distinguish right from wrong. They only know to imitate others and do the same thing, or buy whatever others buy. This phenomenon is often ignored by their parents. In fact, this childish and imitative nature provides a psychological basis for comparison.

How to correctly guide children to solve the comparison mentality?

1. Don’t be satisfied blindly, be appropriate.

Mothers should pay special attention when the children are very young. Children tend to get bored with old things and love new things. When they see other people's new toys, they want their own. Many families always feel that these are not a big problem. They buy them for the children if they want them. Parents should work harder but should not let their children down. However, such unlimited doting will only foster the children's vanity, which will become more and more exaggerated over time. There will always be a day when the children's vanity can no longer be resisted.

2. Cultivate children's awareness of money from an early age

Parents can give their children more money education when they are 3-6 years old, and they can do so through games. When the child goes out and wants to buy something, let him know the price himself. In daily life, parents can let the child do housework and give him pocket money. When he wants to buy something, he can use his pocket money to buy it. In this way, his concept of money will gradually be established. At the same time, it can also let the child do more housework from an early age and reduce the child’s awareness of material comparison.