The dangers of not sleeping in separate beds at the age of 9

Children sleep with their parents from birth so that parents can protect their children at all times, but after the child is three years old, it is best for parents to sleep in separate beds from the child. Because children will have a vague concept of things after the age of three, sleeping in separate beds will better train children's independence and establish their character earlier. Sleeping in separate beds will make children very dependent. So besides dependence, what other harms does not sleeping in separate beds have on children?

1. Precocious puberty

This is the most direct and most serious harm. You must know that when a child reaches the age of 3, he or she begins to have a vague gender awareness. Especially in today's society, children have sexual awareness at a very early age. At this time, if parents still don't find a way to separate their children from sleeping, the children will develop precocious puberty under invisible stimulation.

The impact of precocious puberty on children: short stature and psychological disorders.

2. Oedipus complex or Oedipus complex

I have seen the most extreme example. There was a man in his 40s who had to sleep with his mother. He was like a baby even though he was in his 40s. This is called regressive behavior in psychology. He is overly attached to his mother and will have big problems once he leaves her.

To put it mildly, it is called mother complex and lack of personality independence. To put it seriously, everyone will think it is "mental illness". Of course, this is an extreme example, but I believe that there are still many children over the age of ten who still sleep with their parents.

3. Girls are dependent, boys are vulnerable

Children are still in the attachment period before the age of 3. After the age of 3, they will begin a socialization process. Many children go to kindergarten at the age of 3. This period is the best time for parents and children to sleep in separate beds.

4. The bed that the mother sleeps in may not be suitable for the child

It’s a very simple truth that a bed that is too hard or too soft will bring different developmental and growth conditions for newborns! If the mother's bed is too small, then the child will naturally feel uncomfortable sleeping with the mother. Many mothers do not understand that sleeping in separate beds does not mean sleeping in separate rooms. Buying a crib for the child and freeing up basic space will greatly improve the comfort level.

5. There are safety risks when the mother sleeps

It is actually very dangerous for a child to sleep in his mother's bed, especially when sleeping alone. When they sleep, they will constantly twist their bodies and toss and turn, and they may accidentally roll to the edge of the bed and fall to the ground... and there are many items on the bed where the mother sleeps, which may bring unnecessary danger to the child.