What should we do if a girl from a poor family has character defects?

In general, people's material conditions are better now, but some people living in remote rural areas may not have very good living conditions, especially compared with urban families. Many children will have a competitive spirit. If a girl grows up in a poor family, she will feel that she is inferior to others in many aspects, so she will develop an inferiority complex. In short, children from poor families are prone to character defects. This is a big problem. How should it be solved?

Character flaws of girls from poor families:

What is a character flaw? Understood as personality disorder; psychological darkness, understood as a person who is pessimistic about everything and has a negative and negative attitude

If a person has a personality disorder, then his biggest characteristic is that he will make everyone around him uncomfortable, and then he will feel comfortable. Do you think you can have in-depth contact with such people? It's even harder to talk about marriage.

So, when we talk about character defects, it should not refer to such a serious personality disorder, but may just be a general character problem. If this is the case, we need to analyze it specifically to see what kind of personality problem it is. Not all personality problems prevent marriage.

Some people are cowardly, do not know how to refuse or resist, and are accustomed to being bullied. From a psychological point of view, this is a character flaw, but such people can still get married. Maybe it will be good after marriage.

Everyone has psychological or character flaws. I'm not a perfectionist, but I've hardly ever met anyone without character flaws. There are no perfect people in social commentary." The word "psychologically dark" means that you have seen something done too harshly? If it is a specific matter, then we should talk about it according to the nature of the matter, eliminate misunderstandings and understand the motives. But everyone has character flaws. When you meet the right person, they become characteristics, but when you meet the wrong person, they become flaws. Let’s not talk about this psychological defect for now.

Talk about psychological darkness. If words like negative, calculating, cold-blooded, and dark appear to describe a person, that person is very pitiful and sad. Now that social life is better, children are all very innocent and everyone wants to be happy and not get cancer. If someone is really cold-blooded and dark, it should be caused by her family environment. A child who grows up in love is simple, happy, kind-hearted and helpful; a child who grows up in a family full of abuse, cold violence, competition, ridicule and calculation is likely to have a psychologically dark child, and such a child is inherently pitiful. If you love her very much, use your love to influence her. If you don't love her that much, just let her go and stop condemning her. When she becomes more and more dissatisfied with herself and feels less and less love in the environment, she will become darker.

Let me tell you a true story: it was my aunt. When she was young, my uncle looked pretty good and came from a good family. But in the end, he married a woman with so-called character defects, had a son, and lived a good life. Later, because of some trivial matters, the other side of my aunt was revealed. The family saw many doctors for her, and tried all kinds of Taoist priests and folk remedies, but her condition did not get better but became worse. They had to send her to a mental hospital, where she stayed for more than ten years. She became lazy and gluttonous, and they couldn't get a divorce even if they wanted to. In the past two years, my uncle took my aunt home and took care of her himself after seeing that her condition had improved. He also went to visit her later. She just sat on the sofa every day, doing nothing and not saying anything. It was so scary. My aunt's eyes were simply a nightmare. Since then, I have never been to my uncle's house again. My uncle's son is still unmarried.