Can you scare a disobedient child?

It is a common phenomenon that children have a certain rebellious psychology. When children are disobedient, as parents, we must understand the art of education. We cannot beat or scold them at this time. We must set an example ourselves and use certain convincing methods to educate them. We must communicate with children on an equal footing and treat them honestly. This is beneficial to children's lives. Let us learn about this aspect.

When parents say something sarcastically, children are very obedient

Children aged 4 to 7 have entered the "competitive period". At this time, children are psychologically competitive, strong, and particularly rebellious. At this time, if you communicate with your child by saying the opposite of what you mean, it may have unexpected positive effects. If a child does homework slowly, the parents can say, "I think you are the slowest in your class. You will definitely hand in your homework later than someone else tomorrow." The child in the "competitive period" will definitely say, "No, I'm not. I'm definitely faster than him," and then speed up to do his homework. When the child is unwilling to go to school, the parents say, "If you don't want to go, then don't go. Mom can save some tuition fees." At this time, the child will say, "I want to go to school. I won't let you save tuition fees." Saying the opposite of what you mean is mainly to create a competitive atmosphere for children and deliberately provoke their competitive spirit. Saying the opposite of what you mean is also a communication skill and educational method.

However, this educational method is a folk remedy and is not suitable for every child. It cannot be used at any time. Whether to use it and how many times to use it should be decided based on the child's age group and personality. Since 5-year-old Huanhuan is in the "competitive period" of 4 to 7 years old, she often shows strong rebelliousness and likes to go against her parents in everything. At this time, saying the opposite of what you mean may have a better effect.

In addition, some children are very strong-willed by nature. At this time, if parents continue to nag them as usual, presenting facts and reasoning with their children, it will not work at all. It is better to provoke the child than to push him forward. If parents change their approach at the right time and say the opposite of what they mean, the child will actually "follow" their parents' wishes.

Huanhuan's mother grasped Huanhuan's age and personality traits, and educated him accordingly, achieving better educational results by saying the opposite of what she meant. It's like eating rice every day and occasionally giving him some hot and sour noodles, the child may like it more. However, if you feed him hot and sour noodles often, that’s not good either.

Saying sarcasm too much will affect the formation of children's concept of right and wrong.

3 to 5 years old is a critical period for children to develop self-awareness and language skills. They want to prove their abilities and show their uniqueness, so during this period, children themselves like to play pranks and go against the grain. If they are exposed to special language forms from adults, such as Huanhuan's mother's habit of saying the opposite of what she means, they will naturally learn it, use it everywhere, and feel great joy from it.