What should I do if my child is under a lot of pressure at school?

Every parent expects their child to succeed, so they will intentionally or unintentionally put pressure on their children. Teachers will also put pressure on children at school. If students are sensitive, they will also put pressure on themselves. In fact, this is completely unnecessary. Too much pressure will only bring harm to children. Therefore, we must learn to let children choose what to do, rather than forcing them to learn in a strange way.

1. Be good at overall planning

The feeling of “being in control” can be a great stress reliever in itself. Accepting the things you face selectively rather than passively may make people feel a lot more relaxed. The best way is to make a list according to the importance of things. This can not only provide an overall plan, but also help break down a seemingly disorganized pile of problems into several specific small things, making it much easier to deal with them one by one. As you complete one item, cross it off your list, and the sense of accomplishment you’ll get from doing so will be enough to motivate you to continue doing so.

2. Talk to others when you are confused

When "stress-free" people feel confused, difficult or sad, they will always seek help from their friends without hesitation. When things become very difficult or you are in a state of anxiety, confiding in a friend, just the act of talking, can bring relief, and you may even get some good advice.

3. Try to stay optimistic

"Stress-free" people firmly believe that things will always develop in the direction they want. So, always imagine the best outcome with the most optimistic attitude. Everything that needs to be done is already in progress, and even if there is trouble, we will definitely readjust the status quo as quickly as possible.

4. Never Delay

Don’t put off until tomorrow what can be done today, and don’t put off until several hours later what can be done then. Because many things are left undone, which in itself can cause tremendous psychological pressure.

5. Be good at assigning tasks

“Stress-free” people never feel that they have to do everything themselves. When it comes to assigning tasks, many people think that it is the job of the boss to his subordinates. In fact, in addition to assigning tasks to subordinates, you can also assign them to your colleagues or partners, or to other service agencies.

6. Take deep breaths every day

Daily deep breathing can reduce the perceived stress level by half: straighten your back, relax your shoulders, inhale air deeply into your lungs through your nose, concentrate on feeling the air penetrate every cell, then exhale with all your strength, imagining that the pressure in your body is discharged out of the body along with the airflow.

7. Often fantasize about a bright future

Encourage yourself with the bright prospects after overcoming this difficult time. “Will I still regret this in a month?” “Will I still blame myself for missing this meeting in a week?” “Will I still be mad at my colleague for embarrassing me five minutes from now?” These assumptions that push situations into the future will surely gradually relieve the pressure in front of you.

8. Know when to say “no”

When "pressure-free" people feel that they are unable to do so, they will firmly say "no". "I'd love to help you, but I have other things to do." When they are unable to do so or are unable to do anything, "stress-free" people will not try to show off their abilities. When you reject someone, you don't have to explain the reason clearly.

9. Have your own entertainment

"Stress-free" people can always arrange some time to do things that are not related to work but have always wanted to do. There are various ways of entertainment, but the effects are very similar: to relieve stress, appreciate the beautiful and enjoyable content in life, and thus restore passion and love for life and work.