The psychology of children who are often scolded

Children’s education is what parents care about most, but it is not the case that a so-called “tiger mom” can raise an excellent child. Children’s growth requires encouragement and praise. If a child grows up in an environment where he is scolded for a long time, it is easy to develop some psychological defects, including cowardly character, inferiority complex, psychological repression, loneliness, mental anxiety, developing strange psychology, learning to lie and having a bad temper. Parents need to learn more about the relevant knowledge.

1. Cowardly character and low self-esteem

If parents often quarrel with their children, over time, the children will develop a sense of inferiority from the bottom of their hearts, thinking that they are worthless, and thus will alienate their parents and even develop a sense of fear towards them. Children who grow up in this kind of environment tend to be obedient, mentally repressed, and have a strong sense of self-pity, so they will be passive in their future studies.

2. Psychological repression and loneliness

Because of frequent scolding, children's self-esteem will be seriously damaged. They will give up on themselves, think that they are "inferior", doubt their own abilities, and are unwilling to interact with others, which will lead to a withdrawn and silent personality.

3. Mental anxiety and uneasiness

Some parents have too high expectations for their children, beyond their children's actual abilities. Coupled with their lack of understanding of their children and rude educational methods, they will invisibly increase the psychological burden on their children, making them frightened and anxious all day long. The results are often the opposite of what they expected and further and further away from their parents' requirements.

4. Occurrence of eccentric psychology

Some parents, after quarreling with their children without any reason, ask their children to admit their mistakes to prove that their teachings are reasonable. This kind of behavior will only increase the anger and rebellion in the child's heart. The child is obviously unwilling but is forced to admit his mistakes and give in. Over time, the child will develop some kind of strange psychology.

5. Learn to lie

Some parents will use quarreling to "educate" their children once they find out that they have done something wrong. In order to avoid being scolded and physically hurt, the children start to lie. If the parents find out, they may scold the child more harshly or beat him/her more severely, and the child will be even more afraid to tell the truth next time. The vicious cycle caused by this will have a serious impact on the child's physical and mental health growth.

6. Irritable temper

In fact, parents who often quarrel with their children set a bad role model for them. Children are very imitative. If parents often quarrel with their children, they will bully and quarrel with other children outside, especially those who are younger than them. Psychological imbalance and dissatisfaction often lead to children's mood swings, thus triggering certain psychological illnesses.