What are some ways to cultivate children's sense of security?

Not all children are born as good as we imagine, and not all parents are born qualified parents. In the process of children's growth, parents and children continue to learn and grow together. When a child has some problems, the first thing to think about is that there is something wrong with the parents themselves, which leads to the child being like this. For example, if the child lacks a sense of security, then the parents should consider their attitude towards the child.

1. Don’t always speak loudly to your children.

For example, if your child asks you to do something, and you think it is not feasible, you can talk to your child in a good way. If you are always harsh and impatient with him, it will only make your child dislike you more and more.

2. Don't scare children.

The previous generation has had a huge impact on us, so it is easy for us to say things like, "The big bad wolf is coming," "The police are coming to catch you," "If you keep doing this, mom will leave, mom doesn't like you anymore," etc. But in fact, these are harmful to the baby's sense of security!

3. Don’t interrupt your child easily when he is very interested in something.

Respect the things it likes and interact with it when necessary. Don't stop it just because you think it's not good for it. Make necessary protective arrangements in advance in spaces where children frequently move around. This can help avoid using negative language such as "don't touch", "danger", "don't move" when children are in the mood to explore. Otherwise, children will think that the world is full of dangers.

4. Set aside special time to listen to your children.

American education expert Patty Whiffle specifically mentioned that this "special time" refers to the time when parents put aside other things and interact with their children in a relaxed manner. However, it is not casual relaxation. Instead, they pay attention to their children's performance at all times, including their speech, expressions, tone, posture, movements, etc., as if they do not understand their children at all. During this time, let the children make the decisions, put aside your adult airs, let the children take charge, show your appreciation for the children, do not guide the children's behavior, or even play a weak role.

5. If the child sticks to you, let him stick to you.

If he sticks to you, it means he feels he spends too little time with you and he needs more of your attention and love. Only by opening your arms to welcome your child's "love" at any time and giving him/her emotional satisfaction to the maximum extent possible can you let her feel that no matter what situation she encounters, her mother will stand with her, thus gaining a sense of security in this world.