What to do if your child has a bad temper

Good children are not born, but are cultivated by their parents. In the process of children's growth, they will always show some problems, which make parents feel particularly worried. Among them, many parents don’t know how to deal with their children’s bad temper. In daily life, parents should communicate more with their children and understand their children's inner thoughts and needs. Children's hearts are sensitive, and parents must realize this in time.

1. Discipline is not punishment

There are many reasons why children make mistakes and act naughty. The most important thing is that we need to understand clearly why children make mistakes. Children may make mistakes out of childishness, jealousy, panic, fatigue, stress, or frustration. We should spend more time playing with our children, reading books together, and building a good parent-child relationship. A deep understanding of our children's minds helps us choose appropriate discipline methods. Anticipating possible naughty behavior in children can help us prescribe the right medicine. For example, if we are afraid that our child will have a tantrum in the supermarket, before we go out, we'd better explain to him our shopping plans and what we expect from him.

2. Cold treatment is important

Don't think that children are only concerned with throwing tantrums; they are actually secretly observing your reaction. When you encounter this kind of situation, you must remain unyielding despite the might. Ignore him and make it clear to your child that you have seen through his tricks and that they won't work. In order to make the cold treatment effective, we must do a good job of ideological work among the older generation in advance and never let a "Cheng Yaojin" show up halfway. In addition, parents should remind themselves not to be infected by their children's bad temper. If the child does not listen to your advice, tell yourself that people are like this when they are angry. Give him some time to cool down.

3. Food can adjust your personality

What your children eat determines not only how much they weigh, but also how well they feel and behave. For these children, parents should pay special attention to whether they are lacking in foods rich in calcium and magnesium. Since calcium helps the conduction of nerve stimulation, a lack of calcium will prevent children's nerves from relaxing, causing mental tension and bad temper. Likewise, a lack of magnesium can interfere with nerve activity and cause irritability and nervousness. Parents can add milk, soy products, kelp, dried fish, loach, bananas, apples, nuts and dark green leafy vegetables to the diet.

4. Distract Your Attention

Many children like to act unreasonably, wanting to attract adults' attention or get certain rewards. There are many reasons for this. For example, some children do not like to brush their teeth, so every time they brush their teeth, they will deliberately make trouble or make noise; some children do not let their parents leave, and even if their parents are in a hurry to go to work, they just don’t let them wait. When dealing with young children, the approach of reasoning as taught in the books is definitely not feasible. Children care more about their own feelings, and if you force them to submit with a tough attitude, both adults and children will be very angry. A better way is to find ways to divert his attention, giving him a sense of freshness without violating the parents' principles.

5. Cultivate children's flexibility in doing things

When children play with toys, eat or wear clothes, do not "fix" one way, method and appearance. Try to make it "diversified" from an early age and allow them room for choice. Especially when a thing, food or toy is no longer available, children should be guided to move on to other things, food or toys in a timely manner. The better the adjustment ability, the better the flexibility. When a child's interest increases and his attitude towards dealing with difficulties and problems becomes more flexible, his habit of losing temper will also be alleviated.

6. Sympathize and encourage

A child's psychology is very simple and pure, but also very fragile and cannot withstand any blow. For example, some children are trying very hard to complete a jigsaw puzzle, but after a long time, they fail; or they are trying very hard to build a house with building blocks, but when it is very high, it suddenly collapses. At this time, the child will feel that he is not as capable as he imagined, and will become depressed or even cry and make a fuss. At this time, parents should tell him that other children may have encountered similar situations and were unable to complete this task, so that the baby feels that "this has happened to many people." This can relieve the psychological pressure and self-blame of children. Parents' expression of sympathy can bring them closer to their children, and the effect of consolation will be better after the distance is shortened.