Don't say these words randomly, parents will affect their children's life

Parents are the people who influence their children throughout their lives. They have a close relationship with their children from the beginning of their education to their children's growth. Many parents have too high expectations for their own children because the children around them are not outstanding. It is okay for the Chinese to have the traditional hope that their children will become successful, but try not to show it too obviously. Excessively questioning the children's abilities and forcing the children by some means will cause psychological rebellion in the children.

01. Questioning your child’s abilities

"Hasn't the teacher already taught you? Why don't you know how to do it? You are so stupid."

"Why are you so selfish and don't listen to your mother?"

Children's young minds are extremely sensitive to everything in the outside world. Once parents are angry, they will say anything they want to their children. Little do they know that this behavior will leave a psychological shadow on the children. Children have no ability to distinguish and will consciously associate themselves with what you said, which will lead to inferiority complex in the long run.

02. Words that threaten children

"I can't control you anymore. Let your dad come back and take care of you."

"If you don't obey, I'll throw you out"

It is normal for children to act naughty, but it also causes headaches for parents, so parents always speak to their children in a threatening tone. At first, the children will feel uneasy and scared, but over time, if these words are said too often, the children will treat them as a joke, and the parents will lose their authority in front of their children. On the other hand, speaking to children in a threatening tone will make them feel insecure, causing them to lose trust in their parents and increasing family relationships, which is not conducive to their healthy growth.

03. Words that make your child feel guilty

"You must study hard, mom and dad want you..."

These words from parents will invisibly put pressure on children, and their minds will be overburdened. If they cannot achieve the results their parents expect, children will feel guilty, self-blame, and even depressed. This is a very dangerous sign.

04. Talking to your child in a perfunctory manner

In order to make their children obedient, some parents always agree to their children's requests perfunctorily, but they never take them seriously; or when the children want to ask their parents some questions, the two parents always answer them perfunctorily. Over time, children become increasingly disappointed with their parents and even look down on them.