5 reasons why children always lose their temper with their parents

It is common to see children yelling at their parents and throwing tantrums to express their dissatisfaction in parks and supermarkets. Some parents look furious, scolding their children loudly or even beating them; others look helpless. Such parents have the same doubts: Why does this child have such a bad temper? What should I do if I can’t control him? The child’s temper is getting further and further away from my expectations, which makes me very worried.

1. Correctly understand children’s temper tantrums

When a child throws a tantrum he is venting his dissatisfaction, or it may be a way for him to attract other people's attention. At this time, parents must accept their children's emotions, analyze the needs behind their temper, and provide guidance according to the situation. When children are young, they cannot distinguish emotions, lack effective emotional control and reasonable emotional expression ability. Parents need to learn to be patient listeners. When children lose their temper, it means they do not know how to correctly express their inner emotions. He uses tantrums to tell his parents his dissatisfaction, disappointment, fear, etc., and to seek his parents' attention and help. Therefore, the most unqualified parents are those who deal with their children's temper tantrums by losing their temper.

2. Parents should accept their children’s negative emotions

Sometimes babies get angry because they didn't do something that was beyond their ability. They wanted to get praise from their parents, but they just couldn't do it well. They didn't want their parents to help, but the situation got worse and worse, and the more anxious they were, the worse their temper became. At this time, parents should first accept their children's negative emotions, not be angry, not be annoyed, and not judge their character; guide their children to identify their emotions with a calm attitude, help them choose appropriate ways to express their emotions, and promote their children to self-direct and manage various emotions. With the help of their parents, children will gradually learn to express appropriate emotions at the right place and time, and thus grow into an emotionally stable and popular person.

3. Education and guidance require skills

When a baby loses his temper, it is a way for him to vent his negative emotions and it is his last means of resistance to threaten his parents. At this time, the baby is either crying loudly or sitting on the ground and acting like a spoiled child. If you try to scare the baby, you will undoubtedly add fuel to the fire; if you compromise, you will fall into the baby's trap and encourage the baby's arrogance. In the long run, the baby will become extremely willful and undisciplined. When dealing with a baby's bad temper, you must make sure the baby understands that even if he has a bad temper, it will not have any effect in front of mom and dad. In order to guide children on what they can do and which wishes can be satisfied, it is necessary to give them some rules.

4. Reflection of parents’ education methods

Parents' words and deeds affect their children. Many of the children's language behaviors start with imitation. Therefore, if some adults' practices are inappropriate, they can easily be reflected in the children's behavior. They usually lose their temper when things don't go their way, and couples often quarrel. When their children lose their temper, they think their children are being unreasonable. If parents always deny, even belittle, attack, or even beat and scold their children, the children will think that this is the only way to solve such problems for a long time, and they will learn it.

5. Parents often disappoint their children

Nowadays, some parents often make promises in front of their children. For example, they promise their children where to go for fun on weekends or holidays. They promise to buy delicious food and fun things for their children when they are sad or on certain holidays. However, in the end, the adults do not fulfill the promise for various reasons, which makes the children very disappointed. When negative emotions accumulate, they will get angry and express their dissatisfaction. Some parents ignore their children's feelings and point out their faults in front of others, or endlessly use past mistakes to educate their children about current mistakes, making the children feel that they are all wrong and causing emotional impulses. Over time, children will often come into conflict with their friends and be unconsciously excluded. They will develop psychological barriers and gradually feel lonely, which will cast a shadow on their psychology. Finally, a reminder that children lack trace elements in their bodies. For example, when children are iron deficient, their emotions are prone to be unstable.