Why are children so stupid?

I believe that every parent hopes that their child is very smart and does not want their child to be very stupid, but parents need to know why their children are stupid. Most children are born very smart, and most of the time children become stupid because of their parents. For example, some parents are very eager for quick results and make their children learn difficult knowledge. If the children cannot learn, they will think the children are stupid. So, what is the reason why children are stupid?

First, what is the reason why children are stupid? Before discussing this issue, let's look at an example. We let children play a game. The difficulty of this game exceeds the children's current understanding ability, but we don't explain it to them. As a result, the children always don't know how to play and fail every time they try. Then the children will feel worse and worse, and they will feel stupid without others telling them. If a child rarely gets the feeling of "winning" in his life, he may eventually become a child who looks stupid and timid.

Second, some parents who are keen on the so-called "intellectual development" actively train their young children in reading, writing and arithmetic. Those academic knowledge do not conform to the cognitive characteristics of young children. Although children can memorize them by rote, they do not understand them. Therefore, it often fails to promote their intellectual development. Instead, it brings great learning pressure to children, reduces their interest in learning, and undermines their self-confidence. There is a fairy tale full of morals about a large number of negative suggestions: There was a beautiful princess who was imprisoned in a high tower by a witch since she was a child and could only see the witch every day. The witch said to her every day: "You are so ugly that everyone who sees you will be scared." The princess believed the witch's words and was afraid of being laughed at, so she did not dare to run away. Until one day, a prince passed by the tower and saw the princess's angelic beauty. He was so amazed that he rescued her. The princess then looked in the mirror and realized how beautiful she was.

What is the reason why children are stupid? In fact, many parents may have inadvertently played the role of "witch". Saying that their children are "really stupid" is a common saying of some parents, and they even say it with love. However, the message the child receives is "stupid". Sometimes, parents who want their children to be successful compare their children with others intentionally or unintentionally, "Look how smart Ding Ding is!" "Aunt Li's daughter can talk to foreigners in English, and she is younger than you."... Sometimes, parents act modestly in front of friends and outsiders, "My son is no good, he is very stupid." "This child is very brainless." When a child is convinced that he is stupid and has poor learning ability due to the above reasons, he will develop a serious sense of inferiority and self-doubt, and his subconscious mind will produce a "protective effect", refusing new information to enter the memory bank to protect the owner's belief that it is correct. As a result, he really became a stupid kid who “can’t learn anything”.