What's up with that crazy kid?

In daily life, we often hear about the phenomenon of stage frenzy. The main manifestation is that children usually behave very well, but they will cry and make a fuss in some public places. So what is going on with this phenomenon?

Most parents of children who like to hang out are usually very busy and have no time to accompany their children. They often keep their children at home or ask the elderly and nannies to help take care of them. Children are accompanied by toys all day long and have no other children of the right age to play with. When they do get to be with their parents, their parents' attention is distracted by other things, such as receiving guests. At this time, the child will create a series of incidents and perform strange behaviors to attract the attention of adults.

In fact, the arrival of the guests was just a trigger. The child had been feeling anxious about the lack of attention before, but he had never found an opportunity to release his emotions. As parents were busy entertaining guests, the children felt increasingly left out. Children are very smart. They know that in front of guests or in public places, their parents will be more indulgent with them and unwilling to discipline them in public, so they tend to release their long-accumulated anxiety at these times.

Some children are "stage frightened" because they are brought up too strictly and have too many rules at home. Parents who always demand this and that will suppress their children's free nature and energy for a long time. Therefore, children will vent their long-accumulated dissatisfaction and excess energy when there are guests visiting or when they are in public places. At this time, parents are more likely to give in to their children.

Children are very sensitive to adults' approval. They always pay attention to the eyes and expressions of their parents and people around them, and use this to test whether their behavior is being noticed. If parents and guests laugh at a child's "entertainment" behavior, the child will feel that he or she is recognized. If parents coax or scold their children to stop them from being the center of attention, the children will feel happy because they have gained attention.