How to easily arrange for a 5-year-old child to sleep in a separate bed from his parents

Watching my son who sleeps next to me grow up day by day and soon enter the first grade of elementary school, how can I still sleep with him? I slept in a separate bed from him for a while in the summer of 2014. Later, the weather was getting colder and colder. I was worried that he would kick off the quilt and catch a cold, so as a mother, I naturally let him sleep next to me again.

One time when I was chatting with my sister-in-law, I mentioned that Xuanxuan still sleeps with his mother. My sister-in-law said that Li Jun could get up and pee by himself when he was 3 years old, and could sleep independently when he was 4 years old. Your Xuanxuan should have been sleeping by himself a long time ago, so why should he sleep with adults? She also said that sometimes it is not good for children when adults breathe face to face with children. After all, children are young, and sleeping separately from children early can train children's independence.

First, I showed Xuanxuan some cartoons about this kind of thing. Xuanxuan's favorite cartoons were about children sleeping alone. When I mentioned letting Xuanxuan sleep in a room and a bed by himself, Xuanxuan immediately cried and hugged my arm and wouldn't let go. "Mom, I don't want to sleep separately from you. Let Dad sleep alone! Mom, I want a monster. What should I do if the monster appears?"

It seems that this child has watched too much Ultraman, with monsters on the left and right. Son, let me tell you that there are no monsters in this world, and the ones in the cartoons are fake. I regretted saying this. My child immediately asked, is it also fake that the big-headed son and I sleep in separate beds? That was a lie. Then I still won’t sleep in a separate bed from you.

It's over. I said something wrong. I have to explain it for a long time before my child understands. Then I started talking to my child non-stop. Oh... who made me say the wrong thing?

At this time, Xuanxuan needed some inspirational stories to encourage him, so I started to talk about my childhood, which of course was related to sleeping in separate beds. Then I called my grandmother in Harbin to confirm that his mother was able to sleep in a bed by herself when she was a child. The preparations before this must be done well and without any loopholes, otherwise it would be difficult to fool this kid.

After everything was arranged, Xuanxuan started to ask, "Mom, is this my little bed?" Yes! Mom answered, "Yes, how do you like it? I like it! I like it! Mom, I really like it. Let's go take a shower!" Okay, let's go back to mom's room after taking a shower. "Xuanxuan, what do you mean? Didn't you promise mom that you would sleep by yourself?" Xuanxuan avoided my question, "Mom, mom, we are going to bed and tell different stories." I asked Xuanxuan again why he didn't go to your room!

This time Xuanxuan answered my question directly, "Mom, Mom, I think I should sleep over there tomorrow!"

Okay then! Do you keep your word? Fortunately, I had a trick up my sleeve and recorded what I just said to Xuanxuan. I knew that this kid was acting so happy, but he was just trying to please me. It would be strange if he could sleep alone obediently.

Xuanxuan, what would you do if your mother didn't buy you the Transformers as promised for your birthday? Xuanxuan thought about it and answered, I would be very unhappy and I would go crazy. Ah! I would even go crazy. Is it that serious? Oh! Really? So, you must do what you say.

Now let’s not talk about anything else. Are you going to sleep over tonight or not? Xuanxuan was hesitating. At this time, mom knew that Xuanxuan wanted to find a way out. I immediately said, mom will stay with you for a while tonight, and will leave after you fall asleep, okay! You go to bed first, mom is working with her notebook.

Xuanxuan fell asleep quickly, and sleeping in separate beds was a success on the first day. After taking a bath on the second day, Xuanxuan said to himself, "Mom, you stay with me, okay? You can leave after I fall asleep. Mom, I will get the computer for you, and you go to work!" I'm going to sleep, good night. Looking at the sleeping child, I suddenly felt that the child is still very young! No, I can't be soft-hearted, I must persevere.

The following nights, the little one did not resist sleeping alone. On the contrary, he fell asleep quickly without his mother around. Sometimes he would talk to himself for a while, sing a few lines, and finally say thank you to everyone. I could hear it clearly in the other room!

Well! Actually, it is not that difficult to make the younger son sleep in a separate bed, right? It is important to find the right time and create an atmosphere. First of all, you should decorate the room in a way that the child likes, and then tell some inspiring true stories. Children have strong receptive abilities and can easily accept the current environment quickly. They will be very happy to sleep alone. He fell asleep again after just a while on the bed.