My child has been losing his temper lately. What's going on?

Losing temper is quite common in our lives. People of all ages will lose temper. We often say that children are angels. We think they are simple, happy every day, without any worries, and never lose their temper. In fact, the reality is that children also have temper. I don’t know what’s going on. Recently, the neighbor’s child has been losing his temper all the time. What’s going on?

1. Getting angry because needs are not met

Due to their parents' doting, some children will cry and make a fuss when they are not satisfied. Parents should never give in or encourage this, otherwise it will encourage the child's temper. The simplest way is to put him alone in a room, isolate him for a short period of time, ignore him for a while, and give him time to calm down and reconsider what to do next. Even outside. After repeating this several times, the child will feel that it is meaningless to lose temper and cry, and that he or she cannot get the attention of the parents or what he or she wants. Gradually, he or she will stop losing temper. After each attack subsides, parents should remember to reason with their children and provide the following education in a timely manner. You should tell your child that his or her behavior just now was not good, and that losing your temper to force your parents to meet your needs will not achieve your goal. Let children know that their parents still love them, but just don’t like their throwing tantrums. This can not only educate children to stop making trouble in the future, but also prevent children from becoming alienated from their parents.

2. Throwing tantrums due to being ignored

For such children, comfort them and divert their attention. The younger the child, the more unstable his emotions are and the easier it is for his attention to be diverted. When unpleasant things happen, use activity diversion to allow them to vent their inner tension through games or sports activities. For example, the child misses his mother, but the mother is working overtime and has not come home yet. The child feels very aggrieved and throws things around, and no amount of persuasion will help him. At this time, family members can consciously bring up something that the child is most interested in to divert the child's attention. For example, tell your child a favorite and interesting story, or take your child to play his or her favorite swing game, etc. You must start from love, comfort him emotionally, and coax the child not to cry; be patient, never scold or blame, and never get angry or beat him. Otherwise, the child's temper will only get worse.

3. Getting angry because you are not understood

Children over the age of 3 already have their own thoughts and opinions on certain things. Parents must provide their children with opportunities to fully express their inner thoughts. Sometimes when children are chattering on and on about something interesting to their parents, the parents are often busy with their own things and just nod or hum indifferently, which makes the children very annoyed. Therefore, parents may wish to temporarily put down what they are doing, listen to their children with a focused look, understand their children's words with an appreciative attitude, and chat and talk to their children with interest. This will be a great support and encouragement to their children.

4. Getting angry because you can’t delay gratification

Most preschool children simply do not have the patience to wait any longer for something they want to eat or play with, especially if the temptation is right in front of them. There was once a psychology experiment in which young children were required to wait for 15 minutes in order to get delicious candy. Otherwise, they would only get unpalatable candy. As a result, the children's performance varied depending on the experimental conditions; when the candy was not in front of them, the children persisted in waiting the longest; when one kind of candy (delicious or not) was in front of them, the children could wait for half the time; when both kinds of candy were in front of them, the children could wait for the shortest time. This shows that young children find it difficult to resist temptations in front of them and have weak self-control. Therefore, as parents, we must consciously train our children's ability to delay gratification on a daily basis, starting with small things. Don't let your children learn that as long as I want something, my parents will satisfy it immediately, forming a feeling of getting whatever I want. In this way, when children occasionally fail to get what they want, they are likely to get angry.

Through the above introduction, we have a deeper understanding of why children often lose their temper recently. Therefore, in response to such situations, parents should do a good job of education. We must know that parents are the best teachers for their children. Family education is very important. We must create a positive environment for our children, which will be better for their education and future.