What are the disadvantages of losing your temper with your children?

Everyone has his or her own personality, and no one is immune to losing temper. European scientists have found that appropriate temper can prolong people's life and is a key to maintaining long-term health. But this does not mean that people can lose their temper at will, especially parents losing their temper at their children when they are in a bad mood. This is a very bad practice. Now, let’s talk about the downsides of losing your temper with your children.

When parents feel frustrated, they may blame their temper on personality or other reasons, or they may just focus on the incident, or in the worst case, blame the child. The reason is nothing more than: "If the child doesn't cause trouble, would I be so angry?" It should be said that it is not that parents cannot lose their temper with their children, but some parents lose their temper too much, so it fails to achieve the educational purpose. To put it more seriously, it can only make things worse for the child.

This is because this approach of adults is no longer based on the purpose of educating children or "for the good of children". It can even be said that parents are more concerned about themselves. For example, "what will others think", "this is so embarrassing", "why can't this child bring honor to his parents and do something glorious", etc. Parents should know that when it comes to solving problems, losing temper is probably the simplest and most helpless way.

It can only make children do the same thing after a period of time, but another terrible fact is that the bad temper and bad character that parents are determined to get rid of are unknowingly passed on to their children because of frequent outbreaks - since adults can solve problems in this way, we can do the same. Parents who feel uneasy will later adopt a calm attitude. First there is criticism and complaints, then there is a lecture, and then there is “this won’t happen again”.

The above are the disadvantages of losing your temper with your children. Parents can lose their temper with their children appropriately, but spoiling them is not a good way to love children. However, parents should not lose their temper with their children at will, as this will cause psychological trauma and rebelliousness in children. They can communicate with their children and educate them in an appropriate and tactful tone, and should not vent their negative emotions on their children.