How to educate children who are ignorant

It is normal for children to be ignorant. The biggest role in a child's growth from being ignorant to being successful in the future is probably played by his or her parents. A good family education method can not only cultivate a child's independence, but also enable the child to distinguish right from wrong and be considerate. Everyone has their own way of raising children. Here are the best ways I think:

How can we prevent a child's personality from developing in the opposite direction of the mother's and allow the child to inherit the mother's strengths? The best way is for the mother to restrain her edge in front of the child and become a true mother. A mother is not at the negotiating table with her child, so she does not need to look at her child with a critical, picky or perfectionist eye. A mother's aggressive attitude, harsh language, dominating behavior and self-righteous judgment will do much more harm to a child's self-esteem and self-confidence than exam-oriented education. For a child, from the moment he is born, his demands on the role of mother are almost eternal.

1. Before entering the house, mothers must remind themselves: forget all the unpleasant things at work, because now they are taking on the role of a mother. Children need their mothers to be happy. Never transfer bad emotions that have nothing to do with the children to them, because the children are innocent.

2. When your child excitedly tells his mother that he has won a five-pointed star or a red flower at school today, don't show boredom or disdain, but praise him as happily as your son. The most appropriate way is to ask if the mother can see it and share the joy with him, because this honor is very important to the child.

3. When the child asks the mother questions like "How do you pronounce this word?", it is best for the mother not to answer him immediately. The worst answer is "How come you don't even know this word?" It would be best if the mother took a look and then said, "Oh, I don't know it either. Let's look it up in the dictionary together, okay?" After a few times, the mother taught her child how to use a dictionary. At the same time, the child would feel a sense of accomplishment after looking up the word in the dictionary and recognizing it. After many times, he would develop the habit of not relying on his mother to look up information.

4. When the child comes to ask the mother a question, the mother must not act as smart and capable as she does at work. Pretending to be "ignorant" is a good way to encourage the child to use his or her brain and think through the problem on his or her own. Alternatively, the mother can look up books or use the Internet with the child. The mother cannot speak out all the answers like "pouring beans from a bamboo tube" and feel complacent while doing so. This is not good for the child's growth. After a few times, the child will avoid asking the mother questions and become very inferior.

5. When the child tells the mother that he did not do well in the test today, the mother must control her emotions and must not get angry or look gloomy. The child is nervously observing the mother's expression at this time. Therefore, it is best for the mother to show no emotional changes, let the child take out the test paper, and analyze the mistakes with the child. If the child already understands where he went wrong, the mother doesn't need to keep nagging him. But in the end, you should encourage him: See, now that you have figured it out, you won’t make mistakes in the next test. If the mother feels that she cannot control her emotions, she should go to the bathroom, wash her face, look in the mirror, and take a few deep breaths.

6. When a child shows timidity before an exam or before doing something important, the mother must not ignore it or scold him for being timid or act more nervous than him. This will increase the child's psychological pressure and prevent him from performing normally. At this time, it is best for the mother to say to the child in a calm manner that no matter how well you do, mom and dad were not as good as you when they were your age, so don't worry. At this time, the child will feel very confident and will perform better than usual.

7. If the child has to attend an important event the next day, and the mother observes that the child is worried and nervous, it is best for the mother to stay by the child's bedside that night and accompany him to sleep. Before going to bed, the mother should tell him a story or read his favorite book with him to relieve his inner stress, and leave only after the child falls asleep.

8. When a child suffers failure or setbacks, the mother should be strong and never give up. She should calmly tell the child that failure only represents a temporary situation and does not mean that the child will fail for life. When a mother doesn't want a child but doesn't think about giving up, she first shows that she has no hope. The worst thing to do is to use harsh language to ridicule him, criticize the child for everything, and even settle old and new scores together. Children educated by such a mother will have extremely low self-esteem and may even give up their bright future.

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