12-year-old baby education

In life, many parents feel particularly worried about their children's education, because sometimes there will be certain conflicts between the three views of parents and children. After all, there is a big generation gap in age. Especially when children enter puberty, this is when their own thoughts become more stubborn and they are particularly rebellious. Many babies enter puberty at the age of 12, so how should a 12-year-old baby be educated?

Be patient:

The human growth process is very long and complicated, and in form it is very similar to the growth of a tree. You must not expect a tree to bloom while its seeds are sprouting, and you must not rush to pick the fruits when it blooms. This is what is meant by "never force things to grow".

Reasonable care:

It's like fertilizing a tree. Too much is not good, and too little is not good either. Caring also requires attention to balance. Material and spiritual aspects must be taken into account at the same time without any imbalance. Children should be beaten when necessary and scolded when necessary, but it should not be excessive and parents should not lose their temper. Beating and scolding are not the ends but the means. The hope is that children will understand that parents are very angry. The reason for beating and scolding is that reasoning is sometimes completely ineffective for children under the age of 12, but children must be slowly taught to reason and distinguish right from wrong. We should encourage and praise more and treat each other as equals.

Proper guidance:

Children should not be guided too much. Don't use your head as a parent to think for them. The most important thing is to let them grow naturally. The importance of this will only become apparent after the child is 25 years old. Growing up naturally is a necessary condition for a person to eventually form a healthy and complete personality. But it is very difficult to get it just right. Parents will always more or less impose their own concepts, preconceptions, prejudices, emotions, and hopes on their children, and what they end up cultivating is the so-called "sick plum." Therefore, it is most important to treat children as equals, and parental authority is only necessary in rare cases.

Happy growth:

Proper guidance must be based on happiness. If this premise is lost, all education will be a failure! Children should learn to be happy, learn to share happiness with others, and learn to create happiness from an early age. Therefore, the inculcation of knowledge is very harmful and must be combined with entertainment; compulsory behavioral norms can sometimes have the opposite effect. Children should be allowed to feel the joy of thinking, the joy of labor, the joy of cooperation, the joy of overcoming difficulties, and the joy of creation!

Careful observation:

Modern education is actually the embodiment of large-scale industry in the field of education, and it emphasizes mass production. But everyone has their own personality, so family education that arises from natural economic conditions or private school education similar to that in ancient China must still be promoted. It emphasizes communication between hearts, subtle influence, and spiritual interaction. People, especially underage children, are undergoing tremendous changes every day (in the psychological sense). They have to face all kinds of new things every day. They feel novelty, confusion, and fear, but their bodies and minds are not able to adapt to these new things completely on their own. Therefore, parents and teachers, especially parents, have the responsibility to carefully observe any small changes in their children and make reasonable responses. This is indeed a very difficult job. But as long as parents maintain an equal attitude, a happy mood, act naturally and constantly reflect on themselves, there will be no major deviations.

Reflect from time to time:

Reflection is very necessary for everyone at all times, and the same applies to children. With a reflective and equal, happy and natural mindset, there will be no major deviations or mistakes in children's education.