How to channel children's emotions

Everyone has the emotions mentioned above. Normal emotions are what everyone vents and relieves. Adults can control this, and they also know that if they have negative emotions, they just need to relieve them. However, when faced with children's abnormal emotions, it is difficult to control them well. If you want to relieve them, you must learn the correct method, otherwise it will be counterproductive.

When it comes to emotions, everyone has them. They are very normal and natural human experiences and feelings. No matter what emotions they are, they all have positive meanings. For example, anger, as an emotion itself, is a signal of feeling offended or hurt, and it is also a signal to remind oneself of the need for self-protection and resistance. However, excessive anger and inappropriate expressions of anger can cause damage to interpersonal relationships or self-image. Simply suppressing and controlling it may lead to psychological problems, or an uncontrollable outburst after accumulating for too long.

How should we guide children's emotions? We know that negative emotions are like strong water currents when they come. Guidance is more appropriate and effective than direct control or pressure or blocking.

First of all, when children’s emotions come, parents should let their children recognize their emotions. Many children cannot clearly explain what they feel when they have negative emotions. They can only simply express: unhappy, uncomfortable, and unhappy. It seems that there are only two emotions in their world, one is happy and the other is the opposite. This shows that they themselves do not know how to distinguish their own emotions.

Teach children to recognize emotions, share your own feelings with children more often in daily life, and understand and describe their feelings. When telling stories to children, you should describe the emotions of the characters in the story in a detailed and accurate manner, such as joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness, rather than using general words such as "happy, glad, sad", etc. When chatting with children, use different words to describe your own and your children's emotions: "Our family is happy, and Mom feels very happy", "You specially saved your favorite apple for Mom, and Mom thinks you are so thoughtful and is very touched", "I am very busy at work today, and there is a traffic jam on the way home from get off work, which makes Mom very irritable", etc.

When a child encounters interpersonal problems and quarrels with other children, his emotions may be mixed with anger, hurt, anxiety, jealousy, sadness and so on. At this time, parents should discuss with the child, help the child sort out the emotional feelings from the events described by the child, and gradually let the child recognize and identify his own emotions.

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