What should I do if my child is lazy and not active?

Parents all hope that their children can succeed, which will make them proud in front of relatives and friends, and also means that they have educated their children well. But in life, there are always some children who study well and are more obedient, and there are also some disobedient children who study poorly. So, what should you do if your child is very lazy and poor at studying?

First, help your child find his or her own rhythm of life.

Slow and procrastinating are two different things. Some children do things more slowly, and the younger the child, the slower they are. But this is definitely not a problem. If parents often complain that their children are slow, push them too much, or simply take over, then the problem really arises: a truly lazy, undisciplined, and carefree child is often cultivated in this way.

Why do children procrastinate? Why can't they take the initiative to plan the things that belong to them? That's because their parents have done everything for them, and the children have become dependent. Moreover, children have gained past experience that if they do not do well, the adults around them will rush to criticize and blame them. Instead of listening to the nagging, they might as well just admit it: "I just can't do it well, so you do it for me."

In this process, parents' urging becomes the killer of children's organization. The more parents push, the more likely children are to become dependent on them, or become impatient and more irritable.

For example, when children eat slowly or make food dirty, adults will urge them to eat or yell at them. If the child doesn’t eat well, the adults will simply snatch the bowl and feed him. This is how the child's growth rhythm is disrupted. It’s not that children can’t do good things, but that parents don’t give them the opportunity to do things. How can we expect children to be organized and prioritize things in this way? It's like, how can we expect a person to run fast if he can't even crawl? Doing anything requires following certain rules. Parents cannot expect their children to suddenly have an epiphany one day without any practice beforehand. This is obviously unrealistic.

To help children find their own pace of life, it is important to remember not to compare them with others. Children can be encouraged to compare themselves, that is, vertically, but not horizontally. Every child is born with his or her own temperament. Some children do things in a hurry, while others do things slowly... This is the nature of the child, so why force it? Letting children take their time is the wisdom of parents.