How to educate children during their rebellious period

When children enter adolescence and become rebellious, their bodies begin to become uncontrollable, and their thinking also undergoes major changes. They no longer listen to their parents, and have their own little secrets. Parents need to pay attention to reasonable communication and resolution of these issues. As rebellious adolescents, they must receive timely attention and should not be ignored or left to their own devices.

How to educate children in their rebellious period

Steps/Methods

Communication between parents and children

This is the most fundamental thing. Maybe there is a generation gap between many parents and children, and they can never figure out what their children are thinking. But as parents, have you ever communicated with your children sincerely? Don’t use your status as an elder to pressure your children. This is what children hate the most. Communicate with your children like a friend. Parents who respect their children should not always focus on their children's weaknesses, and should not compare their children's shortcomings with the strengths of other children. When interacting with children, parents should find as many strengths in their children as possible and encourage them more to reduce their resistance to their parents.

Learn to truly care about your children

If you really care about your children, you must be able to think from your children's perspective, pay attention to your children's feelings, remember their birthdays and the days of parent-teacher meetings at school, give them corresponding rewards if they do well in exams, and give them more encouragement if they do not do well. Never blame your children too much. If he makes mistakes in certain things, he should be corrected and guided correctly.

Don't always oppose what your child wants to do.

Some parents always treat their children as children, not allowing them to do this or that. For example, if they want to watch TV after finishing their homework, parents should not object, as this is also the space for children to relax. If you tell them not to watch it, and tell them to go back to their room to read something, although they will reluctantly go back to their room, will they watch it seriously? This is totally useless. Just let him relax for a while. After relaxing, he will naturally go back to study seriously.

Family influence and parental inspiration

Parents should set a good example themselves. The role of parents directly affects the mental health of their children. Parents must reflect on their personal lifestyles and attitudes towards life, pay attention to correcting their own bad personality traits, and provide healthy things for their children at any time. Create a harmonious and pleasant family atmosphere.

Give up power to children, but definitely not indulge them.

For example, where to go for fun or to eat, you might as well discuss it with your child, consider your child's feelings, and seek his or her opinion. In a family with a democratic atmosphere, children will generally take the initiative to approach their parents. However, we cannot comply with the child’s excessive demands, otherwise he will become self-indulgent in the future, which will make him more difficult to educate.

Avoid the misunderstanding of "beating" and "scolding".

Some parents beat and scold their children as long as they are disobedient or do something wrong, and always use violence to stop them. If this continues for a long time, the child's young mind will be shadowed. He will always be afraid of doing something wrong, but will not be brave enough to do it, thus developing a timid and cowardly character.

Don't always put pressure on your children, give them some space.

There is no need to always tell your child that he must get into a certain university, or that he must score above a certain number in every subject on the exam. Give your child more space and let him make more friends.