The consequences of parental favoritism

As a family and as elders, you must know several steps, that is, it is not okay to be partial to your children, because partiality has a huge impact on children. If parents do not pay attention to this aspect, it will cause great changes in the children's future lives. Long-term partiality will cause great influence and impact on the children's psychology. As parents, you need to understand how to educate your children from all aspects.

1. Influenced by traditional feudal ideas

Some parents believe that sons can carry on the family line, while daughters will belong to someone else's family after they get married, so they will especially pamper their sons and look down on their daughters. This may cause the sons to become arrogant and domineering in the long run, relying on their parents' pampering to do whatever they want, while the daughters will develop an inferiority complex and feel that no one loves them.

2. Children have different personalities

Raising a child to adulthood is a very difficult task. In this process, parents need to go through numerous difficulties. Adding the pressure of work and life, they often feel breathless. If the child is sensible, obedient, sweet-mouthed and able to coax people in this situation for a long time, it will not only make the parents worry less, but also relieve their depressed mood, so they will prefer such children.

On the contrary, if the child is naughty by nature and causes trouble outside all day long, or is too low-self esteem and timid to communicate with the outside world, parents will need to spend more energy to take care of the child. However, people's patience has its limits. Once parents are completely disappointed or tired, they will unconsciously begin to "hate" or even "deliberately ignore" such children.

3. Children with certain diseases

People will unconsciously feel sympathy for vulnerable groups. This is human nature and human instinct. If some children have defects such as autism, congenital heart disease, etc., their parents will always devote more energy and love to them, and often ignore the needs of healthy and normal children. In fact, this behavior of parents may make both types of children dissatisfied - children with defects think that their parents are giving them alms, while healthy children think that their parents are biased. If this continues for a long time, it will not only easily lead to estrangement between parents and children, but may also cause hostility between siblings.

IV. Influence of Certain External Factors

As the saying goes, "I hope my sons will become dragons and my daughters will become phoenixes." Some parents' love for their children is conditional. For example, parents work hard to earn money for their children's education, and at this time, parents hope to see their children rank among the best in grades, so that the parents' efforts are worthwhile and rewarding, so they will especially prefer children with good academic performance. On the contrary, if a child fails to do so, then they have failed to live up to their parents’ expectations and wasted their parents’ efforts, and the love given will unconsciously be less.