What to do if your child is rebellious and disobedient

Basically everyone has a rebellious period, it's just that the timing is different. Most people's rebellious period occurs after they enter adolescence, when they are exposed to more social things and their concepts change. For some people, the rebellious period occurs when they are children. At this time, parents generally need to guide their children correctly to prevent things from developing into more serious situations. So what should we do when our children are rebellious and disobedient?

1. When you find that your child is rebellious and talking back, don’t get angry immediately, thinking that the older the child is, the more disobedient he or she will be, causing your temper to rise. They start to scold the children, and in serious cases, they beat and scold them uncontrollably. Children express their opinions and positions in their own way. You should not force them to obey you unconditionally, as this is not conducive to their growth.

2. Pay more attention to your child’s recent situation. Behind a child's rebelliousness, he or she definitely wants the parents to understand the reasons behind the rebellious behavior. Ask your children more about their studies and life, and communicate more like friends to know what they are thinking. As the saying goes, “Know yourself and know your enemy, and you will never be defeated in a hundred battles.” In fact, the relationship between parents and children is also a game, and they need to understand their children’s personalities.

3. Give your children a certain amount of freedom and don’t ask them about everything. The child has grown up and does not need to be taken care of in every way. Let the child walk his/her own path. It is normal to encounter setbacks and failures. You need to understand more, give guidance, instead of intervening and asking anything. It is important for children to grow up and be independent.

4. Need to stay calm. When encountering an extremely rebellious child, both parties need to remain calm. You can temporarily go into a "cold war" to ease your emotions, so that you don't get angry and your child doesn't get sad. A child's temper will not remain the same forever. He/she has to live and problems have to be solved. Often rebellious behavior is caused by trivial things. More words of care and comfort are much better than beating, scolding and criticizing.

5. Be patient and more understanding. Don’t think that “children are in puberty and parents are in menopause”. The problem will never be solved if it is like that. The relationship will become more and more complicated and stiff, as if the child is a stranger.

6. Pause. When your child is unable to accept your request for a while, or even when you have an argument with him/her, you must control your emotions. You can say, "I don't want to deal with this issue now. Let's talk about it later." Cold treatment will work wonders. When the child calms down, he/she will take the initiative to show weakness to you.