Why do children lie?

In fact, children lie because they are afraid of being punished by adults. At this time, you must never use violence to deal with children. First of all, we need to figure out why the baby lies, think about the problem from the child's perspective, and then talk to the baby as a friend, so as to educate the baby about this bad behavior of lying. Parents must be patient when dealing with their children's problems.

1. Cognitive abilities are not yet mature

Children are young and small, so what they observe and experience are naturally different from those of adults. Therefore, what he says sometimes seems exaggerated, for example: "I have a ball as big as a house at home."

2. To attract attention

Children have the characteristic of affirming their existence through the attention of others. If in the child's experience, lying can attract more attention from adults, the child may use this method to attract the attention of others.

3. Improper parenting

Young children are very imitative. The dishonest behavior of their parents will not only have a subtle influence on their children, but also sow the seeds of selfishness and self-interest at the expense of others in their hearts.

4. Easily influenced by others’ suggestions

Parents should not ask their children suggestive questions in a tone, such as "Did you swallow the glass marble?" Many children will answer "yes" to this kind of suggestive question. If you patiently ask your child, "Where did the marble go?" the child will point under the table and tell you, "The marble rolled under the table."

5. Lying to achieve a certain wish

Sometimes, children tend to think that what they want is already what they have. This is because the child's psychological activities and thinking development are not yet perfect, so they have "fantasies" and are not really lying.

6. To escape from something

Sometimes children lie to avoid something. For example, if a child doesn’t want to go to kindergarten, he will say “I have a stomachache”.

7. Fear of being scolded, beaten or scolded

Some parents scold or beat their children whenever their children do something wrong. Children are afraid of being scolded or beaten, so they lie to cover up their mistakes. This kind of cover-up is forgiven by their parents or teachers. So when they do something wrong for the second or third time, they lie again to seek forgiveness.

No one likes their children to lie, let alone encourage them to lie. But how can we avoid hurting children's self-esteem and self-confidence while not indulging them in lying?