The harm of parents spoiling their children

During the growth process of children, parents must let their babies try, learn, and develop good qualities so that they can better integrate into society when they enter the society in the future. As parents, we cannot accompany our children throughout their entire lives. Children have to walk their own paths. Therefore, we must not spoil our children too much when they are young, otherwise it will cause unpredictable harm to their lives.

Spoiling behavior 1: Special treatment

Daily performance:

(1) Eating “alone”: The whole family is reluctant to eat good food and gives it to the child alone;

(2) Celebrating an “only child”: Grandparents don’t have to celebrate their birthdays, but the child must buy a big cake and give gifts for his birthday…

Harm: Such children feel special and are accustomed to being superior to others. They will inevitably become selfish, have no sympathy, and will not care about others.

Spoiling behavior 2: Excessive attention

Daily performance:

(1) Child-centered: During the New Year and other festivals, when relatives and friends come over, they often laugh and tease the children endlessly. Sometimes the adults sit in a circle around the children, repeatedly inviting them to perform and applauding them continuously;

(2) “Stage frenzy”: The person is restless all day long, with extremely scattered attention spans. He or she is particularly prone to “stage frenzy” and even becomes so restless when guests come that it is impossible to have a conversation.

Harm: Such children are inattentive, irritable and selfish.

Spoiling behavior 3: Easily satisfied

Daily performance:

(1) Shopping: When shopping with your baby, buy whatever the child wants;

(2) Too much pocket money: Some parents give a lot of pocket money to young children and primary school students.

Harm: Such children will inevitably develop bad character of not cherishing things, pursuing material enjoyment, wasting money and being inconsiderate to others, and they will have no patience and spirit of endurance.

Spoiling behavior 4: Irregular life

Daily performance:

(1) Irregular life: Children are allowed to have irregular eating, sleeping, playing and studying habits. They are allowed to do whatever they want, such as sleeping late, skipping meals, wandering around during the day, and watching TV until late at night.

(2) Begging and pleading: coaxing and begging the child to eat and sleep, promising to tell the child three stories before finishing the meal, etc.

Harm: Such children lack ambition and curiosity when they grow up, and they live a life of mediocrity and are distracted in doing things.

Doting behavior 5: Taking care of everything

Daily performance:

(1) Not letting children do housework: Children often say, “I don’t even have time to take care of myself, how can I bear to let my children do housework?” Others say, “It’s more troublesome to ask the little thing to do things, so I might as well do it for him.”

(2) Not allowing children to take care of themselves: Not allowing children to learn how to dress themselves, eat, put away toys, etc.

Harm: The inevitable loss of a hardworking, kind, compassionate, capable and motivated child.

Overprotection

Daily performance:

(1) Limit exploration: If a child wants to play in the water, it’s “cold”!; if a child wants to crawl on the ground, it’s “dirty”!; if a child wants to throw something, it’s “hitting”!

(2) To make a fuss about nothing: After a fall, children often get up quietly and continue playing. Why do some children become timid and cry later? This is something adults should think about.

(3) Limiting social interaction: To ensure absolute safety, parents do not allow their children to leave the house or play with other children. Became the "little tail" of parents, and eventually became the "bully at home"

Harm: Children become cowardly and deprived of independence; they become timid and incompetent, lose self-confidence, develop a dependent mentality, and suffer from serious personality defects.

Spoiling behavior seven: not having the heart to discipline

Daily performance:

(1) Parents are afraid of their children crying and making a fuss: Because their parents have always indulged their children since they were young, the children will threaten their parents by crying, sleeping on the floor, or refusing to eat when they are unhappy. Doting parents have no choice but to coax, surrender, comply and accommodate.

(2) Protecting in public: Sometimes when the father is disciplining the child, the mother will defend him: “Don’t be too strict, he is still young.” When some parents are disciplining their children, the grandmother will speak out: “Don’t be too hasty, he will naturally get better when he grows up; when you were young, you were far from being as good as he is!”

Harm: Instilling wrong concepts of right and wrong in children will not only result in distorted personalities in the children, but can sometimes also cause family discord.

Spoiling behavior eight: not having the heart to discipline

Daily performance:

(1) Parents are afraid of their children crying and making a fuss: Because their parents have always indulged their children since they were young, the children will threaten their parents by crying, sleeping on the floor, or refusing to eat when they are unhappy. Doting parents have no choice but to coax, surrender, comply and accommodate.

(2) Protecting in public: Sometimes when the father is disciplining the child, the mother will defend him: “Don’t be too strict, he is still young.” When some parents are disciplining their children, the grandmother will speak out: “Don’t be too hasty, he will naturally get better when he grows up; when you were young, you were far from being as good as he is!”

Harm: Instilling wrong concepts of right and wrong in children will not only result in distorted personalities in the children, but can sometimes also cause family discord.