Baby holding back stool

When babies are young, they need help from their parents with both defecation and urination. As we all know, under normal circumstances, people should defecate once a day. Therefore, parents will let their babies defecate every day. However, some parents find that sometimes their babies do not defecate every day, but instead consciously hold back their bowels, which makes parents very worried about their baby's health. So, what is going on when babies hold their poop?

What is the "anal stage"? The "anal stage" is the second period after children pass the "oral stage".

During this period, as the child's sphincter muscles gradually develop, the baby will feel the contraction and relaxation of the anal and urethral sphincters.

The sexual experience brought by relaxation, some babies get sexual pleasure from holding urine, while others get sexual pleasure from holding defecation.

The anal stage appears around 1.5 to 3 years old. If the anal stage goes smoothly, it usually lasts about 2 months.

The end of the anal stage marks the transition of children's sexual psychology to the next stage - the genital stage.

Characteristics and manifestations of the anal stage

1. After the baby has learned to take off his pants to urinate or defecate by himself, he repeatedly holds back his stool or urine and relieves it in his pants.

Some babies will hide in their rooms, behind curtains, or behind doors when they have to hold back their bowel movements or urination.

2. When babies hold back their bowels, they may have red faces, sweat, become tense, clench their fists, and bend their limbs.

This is a sign of young children experiencing sexual pleasure.

3. Defecate or urinate on the floor, study it carefully, pay special attention to your own urination and defecation, feel the urine with your hands, name the feces, etc.

4. Frequent urination and defecation in the restroom. The rhythm of urination and defecation is different from before. Sometimes the bowel movement is only once every 2-3 days, or it is too late to hold it in.

It will take longer.

5. Observe and learn the gender roles of parents in the family. After the age of 2, boys gradually stop identifying with their mothers and start identifying with their fathers.

Dear, learn to identify and understand your own gender role.

What should parents do when their baby enters the anal stage?

As parents, we should help our children successfully pass through the "anal stage" and let them have a correct understanding of their own bodies.

1. Accept your child's anal stage performance from the heart

The anal stage is a stage that children must go through in their psychological and physiological development. Respect the development of children from the heart and don't make it

If a child wets his pants or poops in his pants, it should not be discussed in front of the child. Family members

The attitude towards the child's anal stage performance should be consistent: otherwise it will cause anxiety to the child and lead to a prolongation of this stage.

2. Don’t interrupt your child’s behavior of holding back urine and feces

If parents find that their children are holding back urine or stool, they should not carry their children directly to the bathroom or force them to sit on the toilet.

This will ruin the child's ongoing experience. If a child is not satisfied during the anal stage, it is easy for him to develop "anal

Character", such as stinginess, stubbornness, and it is easy to have.

3. Don’t scold your child when he wets his pants

When your child wets his pants, don’t blame him or her because you think it’s troublesome or embarrassing, “How many times have I told you to call for help when you pee? Why is this so annoying?”

"Why are you not listening!" "You're so old and still wet your pants!" "If you wet your pants again, mom won't like you anymore." "But calmly and gently

Say "Baby, it's okay, mommy will change you into a clean pair of pants." Parents' accusations, such pressure and entanglement will make children

Feeling helpless and miserable.

4. Help children adapt to the new environment and relieve stress

When children experience some changes in environment or unexpected situations, such as changing to a new nursery or their mother giving birth to a second child, they may

It can lead to abnormal urination and defecation. At this time, parents need to understand the root cause of the problem.

5. Do not disturb your child's study of excrement.

Some children will play with feces or urine with their hands after defecating. When children study their own excrement, parents

Do not disturb the child. You can tell the child not to smear urine and feces everywhere. If only the child's hands are stained with urine and feces,

Parents can just help their children wash clean. Don't scold them for being unhygienic or scold them with concepts such as "dirty" or "shameful".

child. You can gently tell your child that there are bacteria in urine and feces, and if you don’t wash your hands first, your body will get infected.

6. Don’t treat “holding poop and pee” as constipation

When your child's bowel rhythm changes, do not easily treat it as constipation and force the child to use enema or other strong measures to relieve it.

This will closely associate fear and pain with the child's ambassador and eventually lead to real constipation.

Parents should not feed their children large amounts of fruits and vegetables just because their bowel rhythm changes. This will not only fail to change the child's bowel movement, but also prevent the child from eating too much fruit and vegetables.

The development of the anal stage will make children feel that their bodies have "unhealthy signs" and have a negative impact on their bodies.

The facial image also creates greater psychological pressure on defecation.